Love Dare Day 7

So most of this I typed yesterday, the love dare part.. But I just need to vent  a little. I am very sad today. It's nobody's fault. 

Have you ever wanted something so bad it seems crazy to some? Then watched people around you get what you want? Some do deserve it.. But then there are some people who don't even want it and are just going to get rid of it? It hurts. 

I'm having an off day today because of this.. But here is Day 7.

Love Believes the Best

[Love] believes all things, hopes all things. – 1 Corinthians 13:7

In the deep and private corridors of your heart, there is a room. It’s called the Appreciation Room. It’s where your thoughts go when you encounter positive and encouraging things about your spouse. And every so often, you enjoy visiting this special place.

On the walls are written kind words and phrases describing the good attributes of your mate. These may include characteristics like “honest” and “intelligent,” or phrases like “diligent worker,” “wonderful cook,” or “beautiful eyes.” They are things you’ve discovered about your husband or wife that have embedded themselves in your memory. When you think about these things, your appreciation for your spouse begins to increase. In fact, the more time you spend meditating on these positive attributes, the more grateful you are for your mate.

Down another dark corridor of your heart lies the Depreciation Room, and unfortunately you visit there as well.

On its walls are written the things that bother and irritate you about your spouse. These things were placed there out of frustration, hurt feelings, and the disappointment of unmet expectations.

This room is lined with the weaknesses and failures of your husband and wife. Their bad habits, hurtful words, and poor decisions are written in large letters that cover the walls from one end to the other. If you stay in this room long enough, you get depressed and start expressing things like, “My wife is so selfish,” or “My husband can be such a jerk.” Or maybe, “I think I married the wrong person.”

But know this. Spending time in the Depreciation Room kills marriages.

Today’s Dare

For today’s dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.

Questions:

Which list was easier to make? 

They were both equally easy.

What did this reveal about your thoughts? 

I'm not sure.. maybe that at anytime the negative things are easy to come up with.. it should actually be easier to think positive things.

What attribute did you thank your spouse for having? 

I thanked him for being a good dad to my girls. He took on a lot when we got together.. he has no kids and had never been with someone with kids. :)