Love Dare Day 3

So I am shortening these for y'all, the actual messages are much longer.. if you do want to read the whole thing send me a message and I will send it to you. My actual thoughts are in bold in case you don't feel like reading the dare part.. and remember there is a lot explaining why you shouldn't be selfish.. I just didn't add it in here.

So for Day 3 I also had to incorporate day 2 because I pretty much didn't try. 

Here we go:

Love is not selfish. We live in a world that is enamored with "self." The culture around us teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and personal desires as the top priority. The goal, it seems, is to chase the highest level of happiness possible. The danger from this kind of thinking, however, becomes painfully apparent once inside a marriage relationship.

Why do we have such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our mate? The answer is a painful pill to swallow. We are all selfish. (This for me is painfully true. I realized that in the shower this morning over something as simple as body wash. We use the same body wash but I got different "girly" ones for Christmas from a couple people. Well if John had received "manly" body wash I would expect him to use that instead of the joint one so that the joint one would last longer, for me. I haven't been using my girly wash.. but today I changed that. I know this sounds ridiculous to some people.. but it's really true. How can I expect hm to do things that I won't do. Ok, back to the dare.)

If you find it hard to sacrifice your own desires to benefit your spouse, then you may have a deeper problem with selfishness than you want to admit.

Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."

In your journal:

What did you choose to give your spouse? What happened when you gave it?

Where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder. (James 3:16)

Ok, Answers to the questions:

What did you choose to give your spouse? I ordered this supplement he REALLY wanted.. he is trying to get back in the shape he was when we met.. Which I have not been super supportive about.

What happened when you gave it? He was super surprised. He told me I was the best wife ever.. you could just see how happy he was in his face. It really made me feel good.

And for my act of kindness from the day before.. We were having hamburgers.. which you have on buns, right? Well when I asked John what he wanted with the burgers he told me dinner rolls.. huh? I was like.... well the hamburger will be on a bun.. why would you need a dinner roll? He said I don't know I just really want a dinner roll. I am totally a control freak.. and I think dinner needs to make sense.. You can't have protein and 3 starches.. or a hamburger (on an bun), fries, and a dinner roll on the side. It just doesn't make sense to me. Well when I stopped to get buns I went ahead and picked up a pack of brown and serve dinner rolls so he could have his confusing dinner, which again made him really happy. (I also rubbed his feet later, that totally counts as 2 acts of kindness!)

I know this might sound silly to some people, but this is the real me. I'm controlling, bossy, and a little selfish.. as hard as it is for me to say it, that's the truth.

Oh and by the way the husband just sent me the sweetest text, so maybe this is working. :)