I worked out without the husband.. again. Yesterday was Yoga Flex day. I would like to thank Tony Horton for showing me exactly how not flexible I am. Today is Cardio day again. John says he is going to workout with me, we will see. Cardio is the video that made him sore for 2 days and counting. As of yesterday he said his legs still hurt. It's exciting to see the scale go down a little everyday and it is awesome to know I am doing it the right way, no pills or fad diets.
I need to complain about the ex husband for a minute before talking about the Love Dare.
So last weekend was his weekend. I didn't hear from him all week and the girls had a slumber party they wanted to go to so I let them. At 9:34pm I get this text from his friend's phone. (I was in bed, this is actually spelling and grammar, no exaggerations)
Baby Daddy: Wats up. I wanna see my kids.
BD: I just gptta
BD: Home
BD: Were getm to old for
BD: This
ME: You need to start getting in touch with me before Friday. They are at their friends birthday party. They have plans on Sunday. Next weekend. But let me know before last minute I am tired of chasing you down every week.
BD: Every otjer weekemd there mine quit making them plans on my weekend
ME: I never know when you are getting them. It's up to you to get in touch with me. I can't get in touch with you. You don't have a phone.
BD: Ur act like ur, god
ME: I can't help peoples birthdays. When I count on you to get them you cancel. I never know what you are going to do.
BD: Well ive got to pay child support therd mine
ME: No I don't. But you should be able to pick up a phone before 930 Friday night.
BD: Ok dont ur cancel
ME: What?
BD: Two more months Imm done then im
ME: What? You are not making sense
So I called him... he claims the typing errors were because it is a touch-screen phone.. mhmm. Basically he says that I should know that he is going to get them even though I don't hear from him. I have tried to explain to him that I can't count on him because he always cancels and that hearing from him at 9:30pm on the day he is supposed to pick them up is not acceptable. His reply is that he knows we don't get along and in June he is going to quit his job. WHAT!? How is that going to help anything? It is so frustrating. The conversation ended with him yelling F*ck You and hanging up on me. I didn't even raise my voice. I just said that he needs to let me know something before so late on the day we are supposed to meet. I then text and said: What is your deal? Just bc you are having a bad day you don't need to take it out on me.
So after all this do you think he has called to let me know he is getting them this weekend? Of course not. I haven't heard from him. I did just text his friend's phone to see if his friend would have him call me... but we will see what happens. I just feel like I shouldn't have to get in touch with him. If he wants to see the kids he should at least contact me and let me know that yes he is available or no he isn't... not just leave me hanging all the time.
I'm sure it's going to go over great when I tell him that Krysten has tutoring on Saturday and he needs to make sure she goes. UGH!
Ok, on to happier things.
Love Dare -- Day 11.
Love Cherishes.
Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. -- Ephesians 5:28.
Marriage is a beautiful mystery created by God, joining two lives together as one. This not only happens physically but spiritually and emotionally. You start off sharing the same house, the same bed, the same last name. Your identity as individuals has been joined into one. When your spouse goes through a tragedy, both of you feel it. When you find success at your job, both of you rejoice. But somewhere along the way, you experience disappointment, and the sobering reality that you married an imperfect person sets in.
This, however, does not change the fact that your spouse is still a part of you. Ephesians 5:28-29 says, "Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it."
But there is a flip side to this coin. When you mistreat your mate, you are also mistreating yourself. Think about it. Your lives are now interwoven together. Your spouse cannot experience joy or pain, blessing or cursing, without it also affecting you. So when you attack your mate, it is like attacking your own body.
Whenever a husband looks into the eyes of his wife, he should remember that "he who loves his wife loves himself." And a wife should remember that when she loves him, she is also giving love and honor to herself.
When you look at your mate, you're looking at a part of you. So treat her well. Speak highly of him. Nourish and cherish the love of your life.
Today's Dare:
What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, "I cherish you" and do it with a smile. I kind of did this the day before, so it was a little difficult for me. Plus he was crabby, he had a bad day at work and is worried about his Mom, she isn't feeling good.
In your journal:
What did you choose to show that you cherish your mate? I listened to him complain about work, I normally try to get him to look at the bright side which annoys the crap out of him. Instead I just listened and let him vent. I tried to be more patient and also asked him if there was anything I could do that would show how much I cherished him.. he gave me a devious look, but never came up with anything. :)
What did you learn from this experience? I'm not sure, but the night ended on a good note. I think he knows how much I cherish him and I have been working really hard on letting him know exactly how much I love him. I also asked him to watch the movie Fireproof with me, it's about this whole Love Dare.. he said he would. :)
Awesome!
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