2 days, 1 post.

I would love a Sour Cream and Cheddar potato chip. Yes, I am hungry. I guess not sticking to my diet is catching up with me.. I gained 3 lbs back.

Last night didn't go as planned. We ended up going to Cross Creek for dinner. I had fried pickles, 2 margaritas, BBQ pork, and a baked potato. The service was HORRIBLE.. but the food was ok.. just not part of my low cal plan!

By the time we got home I did not work out and I did not talk to John about the love dare.

Ok, all that was from yesterday. For some reason I wasn't in the mood to blog.

Yesterday I did do well on my diet, I didn't eat any chips.. as well as today. The scale is moving in the right direction again too! But, no working out still! I am putting my shoes on and working out as soon as I get home today though.

When I got home yesterday John stayed in the kitchen with me while I cooked. I had him watch the Love, Marriage and Fairy-tales youtube video and I also had him read the Love Dare... I haven't actually shown him any of them up until now. But the day before we had talked about spending more time together and not just being in the same house.

Here is the Dare:

Love Takes Delight

Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life. – Ecclesiastes 9:9 HCSB

One of the most important things you should learn on your Love Dare journey is that you should not just follow your heart. You should lead it. You don’t let your feelings and emotions do the driving. You put them in the back seat and tell them where you’re going.

In your marriage relationship, you won’t always feel like loving. It is unrealistic for your heart to constantly thrill as the thought of spending every moment with your spouse. Nobody can maintain a burning desire for togetherness just one feelings alone. But it’s also difficult to love someone only out of obligation.

A newlywed takes delight in the one they now call their spouse. Their love is fresh and young, and the hopes for a romantic future linger in their hearts. However, there is something just as powerful as that fresh, new love. It comes from the decision to delight in your spouse and to love him or her no matter how long you’ve been married. In other words, love that chooses to love is just as powerful as love that feels like loving. In many ways, it’s a truer love because it has its eyes wide open.

Left to ourselves, we’ll always lean toward being disapproving of one another. She’ll get on your nerves. He’ll aggravate you. But our days are too short to waste in bickering over pretty things. Life is too fleeting for that.

Instead, it’s time to lead your heart to once again delight in your mate. Enjoy your spouse. Take her hand and seek her companionship. Desire his conversation. Remember why you fell in love with her personality. Accept this person – quirks and all – and welcome him or her back into your heart.

Again, you get to choose what you treasure. It’s not like you’re born with certain pre-sets and preferences you’re destined to operate from. If you’re irritable, it’s because you choose to be. If you can’t function without a clean house, it’s because you’ve decided no other way will do. If you pick at your mate more than you praise them, it’s because you’ve allowed your heart to be selfish. You’ve led yourself into criticism.

So now it’s time to lead your heart back out. It’s time to learn to delight in your spouse again, then to watch your heart actually start enjoying who they are.

Today’s dare may be directing you to a real and radical change of heart. For some, the move toward delight may be only a small step away. For others, it may require a giant leap from ongoing disgust.

But if you’ve been delighted before – which you were when you married – you can be delighted again. Even if it’s been a long time. Even if a whole lot has happened to change your perceptions.

The responsibility is yours to relearn what you love about this one to whom you’ve promised yourself forever.





Today’s Dare



Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they’d really like to work on. Just to be together.
It's crazy we were just talking bout this! We have agreed to get off our phones, the internet, my nook.. all things that we pay attention to and just hang out and talk to each other. Now of course last night didn't go exactly as planned.. at first it did , but then I said something that made him mad and it just went down hill from there. But this morning he woke up and apologized and told me that I am a good wife and how much he loves me. Wish us luck for tonight!